Wednesday, 18 April 2012

blog7: My "girlfriend"

In this blog, I would like to tell you a true story about a girl and I.

Once upon a time, there was a girl named A in my senior school. She had beautiful eyes with short straight hair. She was not tall, but she always stood gracefully. She was easygoing, whenever she talked to other people, her face would wear a sweet smile. In conclusion, what the first impression she left on me was sunny, outgoing and warm-hearted. Of course, her merits could not be restricted to only such superficial things. More importantly, she worked very hard and as a result, she always got the first place in my class. To be honest, I really admired her. In my opinion, when a girl can be best characterized by beauty, goodness and diligence, no one could begrudge her his genuine praise. I liked talking with her. I thought we had many interests in common. Once we started talking with each other, regardless of how boring the topic was, we always found it hard stopping. We talked about study, showing our anger about a difficult math exam. We talked about our teachers, laughing at their funny behavior. We talked about our failure, giving our sincere encouragement to each other. We talked about the future, imagining a beautiful scene in our mind. Because of her, I never dare to be slack about my study. With her help, I was smoothly over the hump after one and another adversity.

She was my best girl friend, but I knew that we all did not want to combine those two words together. In our relationship, there was a boundary. Although it was vague and fragile, we just stood beside and never intended to transcend it. Sometimes my classmates would gossip about us, but we did not care about it. We meticulously took care of our pure friendship, regarding it as a small tree that needed us to water and give it sunshine.

Some people tend to say if a girl is suitable for you, you should pursue her without any hesitation; otherwise, you may be regretful. However, I think, in our lifetime, some girls can be your girlfriends, but some girls, even at the depth of heart, there is a voice tells you that she is the person you are looking for, you should bury that emotion in your mind. When I recalled the time spent with her, I always wondered if one of us finally said that phrase, then what would happen. Maybe we will get together. Maybe, conversely, we will be apart forever. I feel lucky, for neither of us decides to transform this flourishing tree into a rose, even though it probably can be more beautiful. A girlfriend is difficult to find, even so, a real female bosom friend who can listen carefully to your complaint, give you advice without any vicious purposes, motivate you to overcome every difficulty in the life and console you when you feel sad is more worthy of cherishing!

16 comments:

  1. I totally agree with you.
    In my opinion, the perfect feeling is the combination of friendship and love. If anyone bring the vague emotion into open, everything will be ruined.
    Thank you for sharing this with us. I really appreciate it .

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  2. i think you did a very correct choice----not combining 'girl' with 'friend' together. there may be many good girls around you, however, not each of them is suitable for you to be your girlfriend. there are difficulties maintaining a pure friendship. if you asked her to do your girlfriend, perhaps you could be friends any more.

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  3. A pure relationship is real but vague. Sometimes, we are busy in growing our beautiful roses but ignore our strong trees. The rose is beautiful, however, only the rose is monotonous. You are fortunate to hold this kind of feeling. Enjoying the process is better than finding the result.

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  4. I think this blog Is my favorite one since we started to do blogs. First of all, the article itself is pretty good. It has a good structure and contains a lot of beautiful sentences. Moreover, you story is extremely good and can reach to us easily. We more or less have similar experience to yours. From my perspective, if you now feel happy for the time you spend with her and feel no regret, then you made a right choice. However, If you feel regret, then there is no need to cheat yourself that you made a decision. I am a person who is very emotional, if I like, I just say I like. If I love, I won't hide my feeling( suppose I know what love is). Wish you could find your dream girl in Singapore! and hope you can express yourself bravely!

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    1. Thanks for your tremendous comment! I think what you said is very enlightening. Frankly speaking, sometimes I really feel somewhat regretful. However, I never regret to make this choice. Maybe it sounds self-contradictory, but this is my true feeling. 就像你说的,因为害怕失去,所以选择做好朋友。(Just as you said, we choose to be good friends, because we fear to lose each other forever!)

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  5. 有标题党之嫌!!!!

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  6. This title really attracts me a lot! I think the happiest thing throughout the whole life is to find a real soul mate regardless of his or her gender. How lucky of you to have such a great friend.I think some people in our life are only suitable for being friends and exchanging ideas. Once this relationship go into another track maybe it will not be wonderful anymore.

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  7. I was also attracted by your topic = =//.Just like my group's research, though many people don't believe there exists pure relationship between a boy and a girl, once a platonic relation has set and maintained, it is really a precious experience and wealth for a lifetime. I am happy to know that you have a platonic friend accompany and motivate you for a long time. I also believe the feelings between platonic friends are better than romantic friends.Thank you for sharing your experience with us.

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  8. Wow, I have to admit that I was attracted by the title of your blog… (^O^) As for the content, I think you are really a lucky person! This reminds me of Xiaoxu’s group’s project—the Platonic relationship! It is rather an interesting topic, isn’t it? I really appreciate your pure friendship with the girl. I think we can have friendship with a person of opposite gender and we don’t need to be affected by those people who are gossiping. As for your decision about keeping the relationship as pure friendship, I think you are quite calm and intelligent. I don’t think that it is time for us to develop a romantic relationship in high school. Therefore, I would rather have a permanent friend than a temporary boyfriend.

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  9. Catchy topic!Why do you miss the space between "girl" and "friend"? What you have written is a very subtle issue. I think you are very emotional that you could sense the unsual relationship between you two. However, you dealt with this rationally,which I could never do because I hate to involve myself in such a subtle issue. Anyway, I feel happy for you that you are satisfied with your decision.

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  10. Wow~ What a fresh and pure story, isn’t it? Although there are less new words in this blog than your previous one, I find it interesting and enjoyable to read. The feeling when I read is just like breathe in and out the fresh and cool air at dawn. I strongly agree with you as I know your feeling when getting on with my several true female friends. I feel that they are just my sisters and we can give each other a hand when one of us is in need. As I consider, no matter what happen, they will still be my best friends in my whole life.

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  11. you are brave enough to say it out.actually,in my opinion,most of us should have a precious memory similar to you in the mind.that three years are a very special period.we and our classmates are like soldiers,and so we are like close comrade-in-arms.i think you have make a right choice to some extent.there are lots of things beyond your control.

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  12. I must say your blog has attracted so many comments. Thanks for being so candid. This is a phase in your life that emotions begin to develop and mature. You are still young--it doesn`t mean the first one who comes along and impresses you must be the one for you. If you had struck a serious relationship, you would have closed the door to meeting someone better than this friend From that experience, at least you know what to look for in a girl. I believe if someone is meant for you , than it`ll be so. You never know--maybe many years down the road, your paths may cross and then you`ll know if she`s the one for you. Meanwhile, keep an open mind and enlarge your circle of friends. There are many more beautiful people out there you`ve yet to meet!!

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  13. Your experience has made recall my wonderful experience in senior high school and middle school with some girls. Actually, we are good friends without holding back anything and help each other just like your girlfriend. I think I our lives we need some good friends with the opposite gender, because they can give us different feelings and suggestions which the friends with the same gender can not give. Sometimes we just want to maintain the relationship of being good friends. However, sometimes because of the mutural understanding and topics between, we may want to make the relationship further. If we really want to, I think we should not be afraid of it because the love established on a good foundation can last long and there are few people can understand you more. So we should cherish it and be brave if we think she is really the one for us.

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