Although I do not use my English name now, I do have one which have accompanied me for over five years. I have chosen Vera as my English name for it symbolizes sincerity. This is the character which I attach most importance to. Moreover, I used to think that sociability was always to the contrary. As a result, I found it hard to choose majors that are closely related to sociability.
I still remember that Xiaoxu once did an oral report about high EQ. At that time, I asked her a question whether it is good for people with high EQ to hide their true feelings and opinions. I always thought that these people, to some extent, were hypocritical. In my view, I thought they led a tiring life wearing their masks. However, the answer from Ms Waheeda and Xiaoxu changed my opinion. They said that sociable people do not hide their feelings but express them skillfully and gently. This is totally true.
Now I am on the crossroad of my life. I do not know to choose Faculty of Science which is more relevant to doing researches or other faculties which focus more on practical skills. I am still confusing. However, the fear of being sociable is not a block in my way anymore. I know that sociability and sincerity are not opposite. People who are sociable are just showing their sincerity to keep friendship.
I think your thought in this blog is really interesting and I do agree with you. Just like you, I always put sincere at the first place when communicate with my friends. As for the word "sociable", many of my friends use this word to describe me and I do regard it as a positive description. I also think these two words are inimitable contradictory.. Anyway, I like your work.
ReplyDeleteYes, sociable people can also sincere; they are not contradictory. However, I do think that a sociable person should be good at controlling his emotions in order not to break any of the relationships. And I find it a little bit hard for me because everyone can see my feelings through my facial expression: if I am quite angry, I will definitely not wear a smile. I agree with you that it is tiring to live with a mask covering one’s face. So that is a challenge for me. Anyway, I should learn more about it. Last but not least, your blog is a very inspired blog!
ReplyDeleteWhen I read half of your blog,I want to say what you have said in the another half.So antually,I do not know what to write in this comment.However,after thinking for a while,I think need to say something.We are all kids now,being in a period when we are emotional.We want to be straight and kind persons.That is a good thing.But I want to tell you,nobody is superficial. Everybody has his or her own deep feelings in his or her own deep bottom of heart.Try to understand others and do not judge others easily even if you do not tell it out.Do not have a fixed impression of a particular person in your mind.
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