Since the topic of this week is Personality and Values, I would like to analyze my personality a little bit. Although someone may doubt if it is necessary to do so, in my opinion, it is the top priority for every person to get along with each other. Knowing your friends personality traits, especially his or her preference and temperament is of great importance, for it can prevent you from offending your friend even if you have no intention to do so. You just don’t know why he or she loses his or her temper. In my opinion, friends should be open to each other, and by doing so, we can avoid unnecessary friction in our life.
Well, classmates that may not know me well may think that I am quite easygoing and have totally no temper. I have to say that the statement is partly correct. Yes, I am easygoing most of the time. I am indeed the follower of peace and harmony- in other words, I feel extremely sorry for all kinds of conflicts, deceptions, disasters and, especially wars. Usually I will be deep in thought and sorrow after I watch an unfortunate event happening to people. For example, after watching the movie Schindler’s list, I spent hours to draw myself from meditation. To some extent, I think I am sentimental: my mood is easily conditioned by the environment- the things around me. That is why I love peace and most of the time, I prefer listen to others’ opinion than to insist my own one. I do not mean that I deny my opinion; I just feel that it is good to accept others’ views if they are reasonable and rational. Whoever is courteous to me, I will double respect him or her.
However, I don’t know why but there is one kind of character of others that I do not so appreciate: a manner that is too dominant and aggressive. The one with this kind of manner may suppress other people and ignore others’ feelings more or less, even though the fellow himself does not sense that his words and tone have actually given others that kind of sense. Confronted with this fellow, I may be like a rubber ball: the more pressure I receive, the high I bounce. Even though I know he has a good intention, I may become a bit firm and tough but I will try to control my temper. But as you know, when air is continuously pumped into a balloon, the balloon is sure to explode one day. I do not mean to hurt someone but I just cannot control.
There do exist some shortcomings in my personalities and I promise that I will change them little by little. I will learn to control my temper better than now. However, I also believe the idiom “It takes two to tango”. What I want to say is that, to be friends, two people must be open and understand each other’s situation; only by doing this can friendship exist for good.
I think you did a good analysis of your personality. Just like you said, i also think you are an easy-going friend and always smile to us. I also find you a very kind and modest people. In my opinion. knowing himself or herself is really siganificant for a person and only if we know the disadvantages and strengths of ourselves can we improve ourselves.
ReplyDeleteTo sum up, i like your blog very much.
Thank you for your comments!
DeleteNo one can be a perfect person and no one can be no temper. A person without temper shows he doesn't have passion and own views about life.I appreciate your character of being peaceful and harmony. You are very rational to know the shortcomings in your character and have the courage to change. I think I always too lazy to change. I think I should learn you and try to change something. Finally I want to say it is no need for you to change a lot for others. Just be the one you like and just enjoy yourself, something or some feelings in personality are inborn. And you should enjoy the unique character.
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DeleteIt`s good to do some soul-searching at certain points in your life. Knowing yourself and trying your best to manage your emotions are what we would term Emotional quotient. Our emotions cause us to act and motivate us. It`s just as important for us to have good EQ as it is for us to have good IQ. We can`t think rationally without understanding our emotional self, and our EQ benefits from the the logical and non-emotive thinking of the rational mind. To have good EQ skills also means that you can manage the emotions of others too, to make accurate interpretations to resolve conflicts.
ReplyDeleteYou already have many EQ skills and I`m so glad you`ve taken on the challenge of being the group leader. You will benefit a great deal from this experience!
Thank you for your comments, Ms Maureen.
DeleteI have to say that you know yourself quite well. You know your temper and can analyze it rationally. I also want to control my temper.However, I do not know myself as well as you know yourself. Therefore,it is rather difficult to for me control it. As for you, it shoud be much more easier. But what I want to say is that you do not need to be bothered with your temper and change it completely. I always think people with some temper are cute.
ReplyDeleteThank you, Lingzi! But I think you won't think I am cute when I lose my temper. Hehe
DeleteThank you for your sharing. I do think that you must know yourself well and I really appreciate your courage to share this with us. It is quite true that knowing ourselves well is the prior thing we should do to communicate with others. Well, as for me, I also have some ideas of my own personality. I think I am quiet, shy and a bit cold, which means, I am not an easy-going person, too. I do not like to talk much and sometimes I even do not want to chat with people at all. I think I feel quite good when I am alone, without anyone’s company. Actually, I know being such a person like that is not good for making friends, so I am trying to improve it a bit.
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DeleteDear team leader, I know nowadays, you always struggle to control your temper when our group’s discussion trapped into a dilemma. My opinion is that, if we want to contrive a good project, a person who is “aggressive” is necessary. To be honest, I do not want to use the word “aggressive”, since such a person’s purpose is also to make our project better. Perhaps, the way he talked is somewhat sharp; however, imagine in our group, every member merely says “oh, it is OK” or “I think so”. Then what will happen? A competitive team does need people who can give their genuine criticism. Maybe, it will make you feel unhappy, but being unhappy is much better than getting a premature or irrational project. Of course, as a teammate, we should usually adopt a moderate way to communicate with others. Nevertheless, in some cases, a radical voice is needed, after all, it just likes an intangible hand, which could pull us out from our Utopia.
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