When is the last time that you got in touch with your friends in China?
How often do you contact with your best friends in senior high school?
What about best friends in middle school?
Long time ago, when I enjoyed friendship for the first, I believed that its a permanent treasure. At that time, I liked to fancy a scene that all my friends and I will gather together, share out experience, and enjoy our time one day when we grow up. Meanwhile, everything I read and learned showed long live the friendship. As a consequence, I drew a conclusion when I was in primary school: Friendship cannot be declined by time, cut off by separation, or destroyed by any objective elements.
Before long, I graduated form primary school. Every students in my class changed phone number and home address with others, and then we entered different junior high schools. I did not have the habit of writing letters or making phone calls if unnecessary, and neither did my friends, so I started losing contact with them. However, I hardly realized anything because I enjoyed studying and playing with my new friends. As a result, I never tried to call and contact with some of my best friends in primary school for three years. I think gap appeared at that time.
In senior high, situation became worse. Though I began to feel bad for not contacting them for the last three years, though I realized the importance of friendship, though I wanted to change the situation, I could not be brave enough to say hello to them by a simple phone call. The reason was that we no longer shared the same hobbies and topics after growing up in different environments,, so there were always silence on the phone, and it was embarrassed. Fortunately, I made more new friends in senior high school.
The same situation took place in university, too.
Do we have to say goodbye to old friends?
Should we amuse with new people and bore with the old?
I do not think so. I still believe that friendship cannot be declined by time, cut off by separation, or destroyed by any objective elements, for I have that kind of friends. Now I feel regret for not keeping in touch with my friends when I was young, and it is hard to relive those relationships. So I will treasure every friend from now on, and make them permanent.
Actually, I think you don't need to force yourself to keep in touch with all your friends because your limited time and energy,on the other hand, you are all living in different environment, making friends with different people,even you contact with them frequently, you will have nothing to say with each other. If they are all your true friends, once you don't contact with them, they will keep you as a permanant friend. We will know thousands of people in our whole life,however, some is acquaintance, only a little part is friends.True friends don't need too much dialogue, just some gesture or one message, they will know you.Just connect with your best friends once a month maybe, that's my suggestion.
ReplyDeleteactually, I also lose lots of my old friends. however, different from you, during the vocation after colledge entrance examtion, I spent a lot of time looking for them, and also we have met with each other. I also found that we have few in commom but it does not matter. what matter is that i know when i was in trouble, there are some friends can back me up.
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