Blog 9: A Memorable Night in Clark Quay

This week is really an amazing week because I took part in a lot of activities. 
 My hometown is located in the northern part of China where not many concerts are held there, especially those concerts performed by pop stars. Before coming to Singapore, one of the reasons made me appreciate the place very much is that a lot of concerts will be held here. The first time I watched a real concert was invited by Ms Jenny Gan and it seems that after one live performance, I have already get addicted to live performances. Luckily, last few days, I had a chance to see a free pop concert at Clark Quay and it was a really wonderful night.

This concert is called “Music Matters” with “Singtel” as the sponsor. Two hours before the concert started when we got there, that square had already been filled with people. Those fans were shouting. It seems that they were all in really high spirit. At first, I felt too shy to show my excitement, but gradually, influenced by the environment around I no more pretended to be calm. We clapped our hands, waved our armed with the rhythm. It was the singers’ happy face made me realize that these actions are really meaningful to those singers. In the past, I watched some interviews of BigBang. In that interview, they shared their true feelings before performing concerts. They said that instead of being afraid or stressed out, surprisingly, the feeling is a mixture of gratitude and excitement. The feeling is so strong that it will drive them cry and change them to another passionate person. And that night I think really felt this kind of feeling. Some pieces sounded really different from the CD versions and sometimes I was so moved that I couldn’t help burst into tears. I don’t know why I can be such a fragile person in front of music. Although I may not understand what the original meaning the singer is delivering, I nearly had my own feeling about every piece. Sometimes, I think neither the lyric nor the melody is important because if it is really a good song it would be easy to guess the meaning from the atmosphere it creates. Maybe that is reason I like the band BigBang so much. I don’t understand Korean or Japanese and almost all of their songs appears to be really happy. But after searching the lyrics, those songs drove me cry actually have really sad stories behind. Music is really magic for me. I still remember in one song called “Play” of Khalil Fong he said that no matter where you are from, another country or another universe, music will always be the right way to get to know each other.

 Through this live performance, I talked to a lot of people and happened to find a person who has a music taste really similar to me. It is always really exciting to meet new friends. Besides, while shouting and jumping, I felt as if I have a real myself. All of us are living under a mask. We need to find a situation to let out our true feeling. And now I feel so lucky to have such a way to find myself. 

blog 8: Why Do We Need thrillers?

  Last few days I watched a video, this video is about a special variety show of some really popular stars' daily routine. This week's content is a group of Kpop stars called BigBang, who is now very popular among youths, paying a visit to the hanted house in Fuji Amusement Park in Japan.
 This hanted house is very famous because it is a lot more than a hanted house for amusement and it was recorded in the Gunies World Record as the world's most horrible haanted house. It was transformed from a real terrifying hopsital. In the past, the doctors and nurses in this hoapital manged to kill the patients who are in good health status and try to get their oragans in order to make more money. Thus, many healthy people died mysteriously here. Later on, the police noticed this strange phenomenon and gave strict punishments to this group of people. Also.this hospital was closed because of this incident.However, the buiding is still quite new, so it was redecorated and changed to what it is looked like now.
 After a brief introduction of this place, these five people started to begin their journey in this hospital. in this program, although only a very short period was recorded and showed to the audience, it is powerful enough to show its horror. The leader, who is always very tough in front of other people even couldn't move while seeing those so called "ghosts" trying to touch him. Another member kept crying out. At last,they had to get out from the emergncy exit half way. After getting out,  all of them felt extremely grateful that this all appeared just now wouldn't happen in the real life. Seeing their complicated face, I started to think, w what is the meaning of these thrillers and these haunted houses set in the amusement parks?
 I still remember in my high school, my desk mate was very addicted to watching thrillers. She started this interest after one exam, in which she didn't performed very well. Because of the bad results, she felt stressed out. In order to release this pressure, she decided to do something exciting in order to forget this pain. However, she was trapped in a wrong direction of watching thrillers. Once I remembered that someone told me that once you are getting used to the terrible scenes in thrillers, you will gradually get addicted to them. She unfortunately became a person like that. Thrillers have been a part of wasting time instead of releasing pressure. Her marks became lower and lower as the time goes by. She slept everyday in classes because she watched thrillers every night, which took up too much of her studying time. In this case, her grades fell even behind. So she need more thrillers to release her pressure.
 This is very typical vicious circle and it reminds me of drug addiction. As we all know a lot of pop stars are claimed to take drugs due to great working pressure, for example, Whitney Huston. In my own opinion, one should learn to face the pressure instead of escaping from it. Everyone has a lot to worry about, especially when getting older so it is very common to feel depressed once upon a time. What need to do is try to be strong inside. I still remember in one of my oral reports, I shared my ways of dealing with stress. I prefer some ways that can drag my attention out of the stress such as chatting or singing instead of some words which can comfort me. Because I think when we are comforting ourselves mostly it is telling a big lie.
 As for the ways of relaxing, I think traveling is the best choice. Along the way we see different scenery, get different feelings and learn to see things from another direction. But for most of us, we are not free to travel around whenever we like. In this case, I think listening to some music is a great way. At least it is a really effective way for me. Several days ago I went to see the "Music Matters" held in Clark Quay and that's a memorable experience. During that live concert, I shouted, jumped with a lot of music fans all around. I think I found myself in that event.



It has always been my strength to wander out of the topic. But whatever, I hope all of us can find the rights ways of dealing with pressure and live a healthy life both physically and mentally~

Blog 10 My last blog

    This is the last blog that I should write in the bridging course, and it may be the last one in my whole life.

    I have wrote nine blog so far, and all of them took me quite a long time to think, analyze and type. To be honest, I like think, speak rather than write. However, through the blogs I have done, I found that sometimes write your thoughts down is indeed the better choice.

While writing, we need to 1. Write enough words(This means we must search or come up with more ideas.) 2. Use complete and brief sentences(Put our opinions in order and combine similar arguments.) 3. Express strong opinions(This helps us to choose proper ideas and requires us to think twice before write.) 4. Find our whether or not are we interested in the topics we choose(I was always changing topic while writing blogs.)

In conclusion, the experience of writing blogs did teach me something about the importance of writing. However, as I mentioned before, I still do not like writing-- no matter what kind. Maybe because I am too lazy to hold a pen or type. A wise man should develop the habit of reading and writing, and I am struggling on the way to it. 

As I am not good enough in writing, I want to share with you some of my reading experience and suggestions. If you can hardly agree with me, please argue with me. 

1. Internet novels may seem interesting and exciting, but reading them is actually a waste of time(I know because I tried......)

2. History stories are quite useful for writing essays in China, and they will also lead you to the life principle which is suitable for you.

3. Philosophy books are usually boring(except for the very famous one: <<Sophie's World>> ), but they are good for forming a critical mind, the ability of asking good questions and the courage to imagine.

4. The kind of books that I like best is called Wu Xia, and my favourite writer is Gu Long. His words are really beautiful, and the plots will always hold your breath. My suggestion is : Try it only if you have plenty of free time.

Now, let's come to the Q&A part.

Any questions?

Blog 10: Christianity and Me

Since I came to Singapore, I have been receiving much religious information, most of which is about Christianity. For instance, my "host family" is actually a church; I took a learning course (Cultural Cornerstone) conducted by tutors who are pastors; I joined in a youth camp organized by Salvation Army and so on. Nowadays, I has formed a habit to go to the church I always went to on Saturday to pray.

After more than 5 months' experiencing of Christianity, I has formed some opinions of my own about this most well-known religion in the world and also about what attitude we Chinese students should hold towards it.

The first point I want to mention is that I think Christianity is a positive mature religion in Singapore. In every district, you can find churches and there will always be prays in weekends. According to my experience, these followers really believe in Jesus and always make efforts to evangelize. Also, it could be strongly felt that Christianity has play a great an positive role in their life. All of these shows that Christianity has developed into a mature and positive religion in Singapore.

Moreover, I think we Chinese students, especially scholars like us in Singapore should try to learn something about Christianity and experience the life of Christians. Since we are bound to live in Singapore for at least 10 years and there is a great chance that we would go to western countries for further development, it would be better for us to know about Christianity. At least, it is no harm to do so, isn't it?

Lastly , I just want to share some personal feelings. I am not a Christian and I don't think I would be one in foreseeable time. However, my church gladly received me, a rather strange member. The pastor allows me to go to the church every Saturday and receive the Holy Communion. It gives a warm feeling and reflects the open mind of Christians. What's more, every time I go to the church, I would achieve absolute peace in my mind. All the worries, concerns, tasks are left behind me. With the melodic hymns among the devout believers,I can feel a pure joy rising from my heart. It is a kind of euphoria much superior to the superficial joy i get in my daily life. The last point I want to mention is that in the church, we can make friends with a group of people who are straight, honest, kind and devout. Although my friends in class, in hostel are also good people, I feel extremely warm and safe with them, especially in a foreign country without my parents. The suggestions from the pastors, the comfort from friends, the study we together did all gave me much help in fitting into the society here and did make some changes to my life.

Thus, wish we could learn Christianity and be blessed by Jesus, Father Almighty.

Essay 9

When is the last time that you got in touch with your friends in China?

How often do you contact with your best friends in senior high school? 

What about best friends in middle school?

Long time ago, when I enjoyed friendship for the first, I believed that its a permanent treasure. At that time, I liked to fancy a scene that all my friends and I will gather together, share out experience, and enjoy our time one day when we grow up. Meanwhile, everything I read and learned showed long live the friendship. As a consequence, I drew a conclusion when I was in primary school: Friendship cannot be declined by time, cut off by separation, or destroyed by  any objective elements.

Before long, I graduated form primary school. Every students in my class changed phone number and home address with others, and then we entered different junior high schools. I did not have the habit of writing letters or making phone calls if unnecessary, and neither did my friends, so I started losing contact with them. However, I hardly realized anything because I enjoyed studying and playing with my new friends. As a result, I never tried to call and contact with some of my best friends in primary school for three years. I think gap appeared at that time.

In senior high, situation became worse. Though I began to feel bad for not contacting them for the last three years, though I realized the importance of friendship, though I wanted to change the situation, I could not be brave enough to say hello to them by a simple phone call. The reason was that we no longer shared the same hobbies and topics after growing up in different environments,, so there were always silence on the phone, and it was embarrassed. Fortunately, I made more new friends in senior high school.

The same situation took place in university, too. 

Do we have to say goodbye to old friends?

Should we amuse with new people and bore with the old?

I do not think so. I still believe that friendship cannot be declined by time, cut off by separation, or destroyed by any objective elements, for I have that kind of friends. Now I feel regret for not keeping in touch with my friends when I was young, and it is hard to relive those relationships. So I will treasure every friend from now on, and make them permanent.

Blog 9: When I was ill here...

Last several days, I suffered from a common disease: fever. It was caused by a cold night( because of the geiliable air conditioner) and a heavy rain the next day. Thus, yesterday I didn't go to NUS and went to the clinic. After that, I spent most of the day sleeping.

To be frank, it was the first time that I had felt helpless since I came to this unfamiliar country. Mum was not by my side. She couldn't take care of me, or cook special food for me, or comfort me as she would always do. My best friends were far away from me, otherwise they would come to visit me. What I could do was going to the clinic alone with my suffering body and slept all the day. After being here for almost half a year, I came to start to understand the difficulty of living abroad alone. It's Akins of lonely, a kind of helplessness.

However, there were something that warmed my heart. I published a message on my RenRen to describe my situation. Before long, I received many replies that came from my friends and classmates. I also received several SMSs, some of which were from China. Though the words in these messages were simple and similar, they still gave me a lot of comfort, which added much happiness to the dark day.

After this, I believe in friendship more firmly and confirmed again how important a role a friend can play in our life. Apart from your parents and other family members, friends are the ones you can rely on when you are confused about the future; they are the ones you ca turn to when you need help;they are the ones stand by you when you feel alone. They are the ones walk towards you when the rest of the world walks away.

So, cherish your friends and let them know.

blog 8： Western Values in The Most Successful Fantasy Movies

I just finished watching The Lord of The Rings trilogy, which is one of the most famous western fantasy films. However, I found a lot of plots and characters that are very similar to those in another very successful fantasy film-- Harry Potter. I do not think it may be a kind of plagiarize, so the only reason for it is that: The similarities are Western Values which the society treasures a lot.

Now I will list a few of the similarities and do a little of analysis. 

l There are more than one leading roles. Different from Super Man and Spider Man or whatever Man, Harry Potter and The Lord of The Rings have many leading roles and everyone is necessary, which means victory needs the strength of unity rather than someone's super power.

l Long live the friendship. That is easy to find. Ron and Hermione support Harry unconditionally just like Sam does to Frodo. 

l The devil has a matchless army and an immortal body. Evil cannot be head-on destroyed.

l But the devil will die with the ruin of certain items. I think the items represent certain kind of appetites. There will be no darkness if only humans can defeat these appetites.

l Females can do even better than males. 

l The most intelligent character must be a greybeard.

l Go to the dangers or go back? "I cannot go back!

l Humans will defeat the evil. After all, no matter how powerful the evil is, humans will win. That is a belief. 

    With knowing these, you may guess the ending and plots correctly when you see a western fantasy film next time. 

  

Blog 8: A Separation to Come

These days, when I hear my classmates discuss their choices of the majors and halls, I gradually realize that a separation is forthcoming.

110 days ago, our great class--- Group one began its journey in the English bridging course. I could still remember the unfamiliar feeling when all of us meet with each other. At that time, we didn't speak much to each other. Strangely, at the same time we wanted to get known to each other. At the time when Hanxu's hairstyle was still the exploding one, everything seemed interesting and new to us within the group.

As time went by, strangers in the past gradually became best friends of each other. In this exotic land, our group fellows are the most close brothers and sisters. Now, we know each other well, study happily together and live satisfied with each other's company.
How I wish this situation can last for a long enough time for us to become the life friends of each other!

However, everything will come to an end. In the foreseeable time, close friends at present will set off for their own career in NUS. What a pity that we will be in different majors, in different halls and in different classes at the same time! Every time I came to this thought, a feeling of melancholy would squeeze my heart. How hard could it be for us to maintain our friendship!

I can't vow solemnly that I will never forget our friendship or will never let the gloss of it fade even a little bit. What I can do is just try to remember it and if possible let the friendships go on. Maybe some of us will be better friends after the separation or to the contrary gradually lose touch of each other, but I hope at least we could remember the happy time we spent with each other's company and the funny, interesting, stupid, boring, wonderful things we did together.

Be the man you want to be

Nobody can be perfect. In other words, everyone has disadvantages and shortcomings. Recently, after comparing myself with others, I found that there is a long distance for me to improve. As a consequence, I want to change some habits or even certain personalities to become the man I want to be.

Here I would like to list some of my disadvantages. In the following days, I will try my best to turn them into my strengths.

1.I am too lazy. I do not like studying, cleaning room, and laundry.

2.I am a little careless. I may spend hours finding something because sometimes I can easily forget where they are.

3.I have no resistance to games and that kind of temptation.

4.I am not very sociable.

5.My ambition cannot exist long enough.

6.I do not have the ability to laugh while facing cameras.

......

There are other problems that I dare not write down, and this is another disadvantage.

Fortunately, I have at least one advantage: I have the courage to face the fact and change the situation. With this, I believe the list above can become my motivation rather than the obstacle. As I mentioned in my oral presentation, it is actually the earliest time when you think it’s too late to change something.

The reason why I choose this as my topic is as followed: Recently one of my friends in Singapore always told me that he was very boring. He could hardly tell the reason when I asked why, and everything even play could no longer attract him. Without his words, I am not sure what is bothering him. However, if he is upset about his behaviors and his personalities, I hope this blog can help him to find the courage to face his own disadvantages.

What is gone is gone. Feeling regret for the past is meaningless, and it is the future that makes sense. If you are not satisfied with yourself, list your advantages and try to change yourself. Follow your heart and be the person who you want to be.

BLOG 7: Have Fun with Making Videos

I have been in Singapore for nearly four months. During this period, I have being trying many new things, one of which is making videos with iMovie. I find that it is really challenging, interesting and meaningful to making videos.

Above all, it is challenging to start from scratch to learn to make videos. You must patiently try to explore the features of the video software and find out the functions of every icon. Apart from this, the most difficult problem for me is to match the pictures to the rhythm of the background music.

However challenging making a video is, I am always interested in it because it is really interesting! You will satisfy yourself when you handle one problem after another and have a great sense of achievement after you have finish your work.

Now, we come to the meaning of making videos. Let me introduce the videos I made first. 1. I made a video of my friends in Chongqing University as a present for New Year to them. 2. I made a video of my family as a present for Chinese New Year. 3. I made a video to memory my Senior School life. 4. I made the video for my Orientation Camp’s group to present in the Talent Show. 5. I made a video as an AD for CELC in class. 6. I made a video for Ji Yi’s birthday. From examples above, I think the meaning of making a video is to record our precious life, memory our past and celebrate events. One special meaning is that videos can be saved permanently and not like other things, the value of them increases when time passes by. Imagine after many years, you open the videos you made today and recall the sweet time you were in. How nice the feeling could be!!!

Well, anyway, I have been a little bit crazy about making videos and I hope all of you can join to explore the joy in it with me.

Blog 7: Dream and Reality

Our life is filled up with all kinds of dreams. The dream can be complicated or simple, funny or serious, etc. But they are all our desires for a certain period of time.

I still remember my first dream is to become a biologist and live in the jungle playing with those creatures for the whole life. At that time I really like all kinds of insects. My father told me that I always brought some strange insets back to home trying to feed them and when I felt bored I would kill them without hesitation. I couldn’t imagine how I could be that cruel and brave we I was young, because now I’m even afraid of getting closer to the insects. Whenever an insect appears I am always controlling myself not to scream.

My dream is always changing as the time goes by. But the longest dream I’ve had is to become an architect. This dream starts from my love for painting. Spending the days painting a lot of pictures sounds really perfect. However, to be realistic, supporting ourselves or even the whole family by being an artist is almost impossible. Many masterpieces were admitted after the painters died. Painters like Vincent Van Gogh was extremely poor throughout his life. I'm just an ordinary person wishing to have a good living condition. Then when I was studying in middle school my art teacher introduced the architect Gaudi Antonio. His works were really amazing and I was deeply attracted by those buildings. Since then I've set a dream for myself. But between dream and reality there is always a long way to go. After the college entrance examination in order to ensure to major in architecture I went Chongqing University. However, to my great surprise, another person with higher marks was also making the crazy decision as I did. Thus I had to become a student of civil engineering, preparing to change my major to architecture when studying the master's degree. After two months' studying, I found myself gradually falling in love with civil engineering. But it was at that time I was selected to be one of the SM3 scholars. In NUS we are not supposed to learn architect so my plan was to learn civil engineering. But after searching on the Internet, the civil engineering in NUS is really far away from what I though before. That is to say, maybe it's not the right way leading to my dream. 
Perhaps now it's the time to give up and try to be practical. Nothing will last forever in the future I'm sure to find something else worth working hard for my whole life.

Blogger 6: My opinions towards ghosts and spirits

My opinions towards ghosts and spirits

Suppose that you are sitting in front of your computer reading a ordinary story, then suddenly a pale and frightening face of a "girl" appeared on the screen. There is blood on her lips and the two red and blood-curdling eyes are staring at you. Will you be scared for a long time? Or you can clam down quickly because you refuse to believe the existence of ghosts.

On 1st April, I and a friend of mine just experienced such an awful thing. At that night, I went to his room and found that he was reading a PPT. With curiosity, I came close to the computer and started reading it with him, and nothing seemed abnormal at first. However, while he clicked the mouse for the third time, the face suddenly came up with a very loud sound of screaming. I admit that I was scared at the moment, but it was not too serious for me to run or cry. Unfortunately, my friend was so frightened that he shouted and jumped to me unexpectedly. What would you do on this situation with a nervous mood?

Without hesitation, I pushed him on the face forcefully because I was startled by him rather than the "girl". What a poor boy! He was terrified by the "girl" and then beat by me on the face. After he calmed down and felt painful on his nose, he told me that he would not be peaceful for the next few days, notwithstanding that he realized it was just a hoax. Moreover, he had to ask his roommate for sharing a bed because he almost dared not close his eyes.

The story ends, and the PPT which we were looking turned out to be a joke. However, the effect is still there as you can see. My friend has even taken a psychological toll, and he said yes when I asked him whether he think there are ghosts. So, is there anything like ghosts or spirits in the world? My answer is that I do not know. First of all, I have never seen one so I will not readily believe it. As a consequence, some awful thoughts will not jump into my mind when I do something or go somewhere that considered unlucky or evil to some people. On the other hand, nobody can prove that there are no such things exist, so I will not take part in some activities such as evocation. In conclusion, I am a little afraid of "ghosts" from my bottom of heart because there are so many frightening stories on the Internet nowadays, so I will always change my mind to avoid thinking of them.

As a freethinker, I think the way people treat with ghosts is like with religions. They exist if you believe, or they are just vision. In my view, people are scared by themselves for most of times and the best way to calm down is to distract their attentions. Finally, may my friend recover.

Blog 6:Do everything before hand

It's the first time I decide to write a blog on Monday, which is too early for me. I've always been having a bad habit of doing everything till the last minute. Last week I really suffered a lot from it and I think now it’s a time for me to make a change.

This regret started from handing in Essay 2. I failed to upload my essay to Turn It In thus I need to suffer the result of failing in this essay. If I hadn't written it I wouldn't feel this bad. The next morning I asked my classmate about this issue hoping to find someone like me to reduce my pain. However, all of them succeeded in uploading this essay. This comparison added to my regrets. During the last few days, I had quite a lot of time to finish this task, but I wasted too much of it watching music videos, chatting with my friends online. A life like this shouldn’t continue anymore.

Shortly after this, on Saturday, another sad thing happened. This Saturday we had our Checkpoint test on C programming and math. C programming got me stuck in an extremely low spirit. The night before this test I stayed up very late to solve all those questions I wasn’t clear about. To learn is a process to accumulate. Just like a huge building cannot be finished in one day, either can all the knowledge be absorbed just after one night’s hardworking. I still remembered last few days when I talked with Daquan about my lacking of passion in study since I came to Singapore, he said that it is really lucky for us to have a bridging course to adjust ourselves. Time is flying without being realized. No matter what the result might be, at least when I finished the courses I hope I could say I’ve done all what I can do confidently without hesitation. 

Wow~~ It seems that I’m wandering out of my topic. Whatever lah~ I hope I could control myself and get rid of this bad habit. 

Blog 5: Let It Go

Life is indeed a journey in which you could never go back. Those sceneries along the road as well as time fade away from our sight at an incredible speed. When we look back, we will always feel pity for certain things, for those we've lost. In my opinion, holding a wise attitude to these things is the key to advance in our life journey

Though I have only been in this world for 19 years, there have already been enough things for me to feel sweet, to taste sorrow, and mostly, to regret for. The failure of doing poorly in National Entrance Examination, the improper behaviors which hurt my parents, the final separation of she and I, and countless other things are all the secret pains locked in the inner room of my heart. Every time I recall these memories, I could feel as if someone is squeezing my heart.  I always asked myself what made me so stupid to do such a ridiculous thing? Why i didn't know how to cherish? Why I let her go? There was a time when all of these existed as heavy burdens to me, which blocked my way forward.

I knew my attitude was wrong, but sometimes man just couldn't prevent his emotion from destroying his rational thoughts. However, after experiencing quite a lot of things, I think I am mature enough to handle it.

As the Chinese saying goes:"Things in the past are beyond redemption, yet we can pursue what is in the future", the most degage thing you can do is to leave a loud laughter for the Irreversible past, and hold your sight to the unpredictable future.    Now, I would still feel sorrow every time I think of things I lost in the past time, but I have gained enough courage to face it, to learn from it, to smile to it. Things lost are lost, so why we use the lost things to add worries into our minds. After all, the future is still in our hand!

So, why not let the past things past? Let it go. If they come to our mind, why not smile to them, chat with them, and then say goodbye to them. Maybe we cannot make those things lost to come back, but at least we can seize the things we will have tomorrow and leave less pity in our life road.

Blog 4: Do You Believe Love Will Last Forever?

The first time I listened to the song "I will always love you" performed by Whitney Huston, I was still a primary school student. At that time, I was attracted by the melody as well as the voice of the singer. Last Saturday I heard it being performed in the Esplanade concert hall, however, this time my feeling was a little bit complicated. And I can't help asking: Do you believe love will last forever?

In our daily life, seeing so many people falling in love but at last breaking apart, I sometimes will doubt the sense of security of love. In the movie series Harry Potter, Snape fell in love with Harry's mother Lily since their childhood.His love continues even after Lily got married. The part that moved me most was his recall of the past. His love towards Lily never changed. At last when Dembledor asked him:" So you still love Lily?" He answered:" Yes, always." Seeing this scene, I was so touched that I couldn't help bursting into tears. This is just a story of a novel, could an affection like this exist in real life? 

According to the scientific research. The affection between a couple physically could only lasts for 1.5 to 2 years. That is to say, after this period of time, the relationship is mainly supported by a sense of responsibility as well as a habit of being together. But do remember, we can gradually get rid of a habit. The sense of responsibility may also disappear one day. So don't say I will love you forever so easily. The promises will only reflect the fragility of love. At the beginning of the movie "Titanic", Rose was telling her love story as a grandma with some children. She was so in love with Jack during the time on Titanic; Jack even died in front of her. But she still got married after being survived. I don't mean that we can only love one person throughout the whole life. What I mean is that everything is changing all the time. Love is really fragile. 

There is a line in the song "Before  the Storm" preformed by Miley Cyrus and Jonas Brothers--"It's the memory that lasts." Tomorrow cannot be predicted;past is the past. So the only thing we can do is to take every effort to value today. Word hard and play hard, love crazily so that there will be no regrets in our memory.

Although forever is so hard to achieve, I'm still willing to believe. There is a sentence:" It used to be there, so it will always be there." Memory will last forever.

Blog 3: I Miss You

Dear September:
 Last night I had a dream about going back to our Junior middle schoool, the middle school attached to Jilin University. In the dream, I was on my way to school in my father's car as if I were several years ago. I was very happy because I could see you and all our friends. But when I arrived, the school was actually empty. At that moment I suddenly had a feeling of extreme empty. The emotion was so strong that I couldn't help crying. Later on I was woke up by my tears. It was at that time that I realized I haven't seen you for three months and I miss you so much.
 Everything has been so well since I came Singapore. I met a lot of new people. We shared a lot of very happy moments but I still cannot make sure whether they are friends. If they are my real friends, then why I still feel really lonely sometimes? Late nights when I surfed the Internet，I saw many pictures of our school. I miss the small restaurants around, the playground, even the toilet where we used to practice singing. I still remember that time when we were performing a song of Coco Li, we sang it hand in hand from beginning to the end.Hey do you know a line of the song Fearless performed by Taylor Swift?--"You took my hand and drag my headfirst fearless."You gave me the courage to sing the song in front of so many people.
 To me, friends are not only mean to share happy moments together, but also means supporting as well as caring for each other no matter what happens.
 We both had a special preference for crying.Do you remember we were lying on the playground missing Ms Li, our Chinese teacher who was replaced for being pregnant, with tears all over our face. Some of our classmates was quite confused seeing us crying so hard at that time. I guess no one else could have more sensitive soul than us and maybe that's why we always feeling safe being together.We are so similar to each other.
 Just now I was reading our common dairy books for our 3rd Grade in junior middle school. All our tiny feelings for those days were kept in these books. And I found a sentence I like a lot now--"If someone could help forget your past, then he must be your future."
 Once you said to me that when we are old enough to live alone, we must buy a house next to each other. Our husbands will become good friends; if our children are of the different sex, they will fall in love and get married one day. The day when we are too old to die, our graves will be put closely next to each other.All the people will see that we are the best friends.
 Now we are both working really hard to build our economic base. We are sure to enjoy a life like that one day~!
 Finally, wish you a really good night and I miss you.





                                                                  Yours sincerely,
                                                                          Dashaxu.

Blog 4:The animation and movie industry in China

Do you like movies? Do you like comic and animation? Nowadays, people are seeking for visually pleasing things and as a result, animation and films became the famous way to create and enjoy art. In my view, China has already been out of fashion in these areas.

First, let's have a look at animation If you ask this question in any senior high school in China: "what is your favourite comic book?" I think more than 90% of the answers are Japanese comic books. The enthusiasm for that once became so high that the government considered that Japanese culture had already invaded China, and all the Japanese animation programmes on TV were abandoned. It seemed that Chinese cartoons would occupy the market later but the truth proved that there are still only a few children who are interested in Chinese products. In my opinion, there are several reasons for this situation.

◆The contents of the animation are not suitable. As I know, the stories included in that are almost made up according to ancient Chinese mythologys or masterpieces, which may be familiar or boring to teenagers.

◆The artists whose job is to draw comics in China are not creative. This may be similar to the first one, because that is the result of this fact. I can assure that more than half of the cartoons created by Chinese cartoonists patterned some famous Japanese comics. Consequently, teenagers will go for the original one.

◆The appearances of the roles are scratchy. I do not know the reason about that, maybe our government still have not understood the importance of a good Chinese animation, so no one would like to treat it seriously. To be honest, I do think handsome men and beautiful women can attract more attentions.

◆Most of the roles in Chinese cartoons are animals. As a result of the previous reason, artists can only try something that is easy to draw. As far as I know, the most successful animation in China is a long story about two wolves and many sheep. However, teenagers like heroes and one of their hobbies is the behave like super heroes. I can hardly believe they will perform like a sheep, and that is dangerous for a cartoon.

◆Anything about violence, sex and whatever the government thinks sensitive is abandoned in both comics and cartoons. That is actually a positive rule, but perhaps it was carried out too thoroughly, which makes these things unacceptable for teenagers and adults. How can that hold the big market with customers only under 12 years old?

The similar problems occurred in movie industry in China, too.

In conclusion, the fashion of art has already turned into a competition about how can people express their feelings and imaginations, for example, movies, cartoons and comic books. China has to do something to improve its position in these areas.

BLOG 4: My Opinions about Faith and Religions

There is a saying goes like this:”Chinese people don’t have faith.” Though I couldn’t tell whether it is true or not, I do think there is something wrong in many Chinese people’s state of mind.

In my opinion, in order to let a society run effectively and safely, there must be two systems. One is the law system; the other is the morality system. Law system exists in all countries in similar form, while the morality systems are quite different.

In many western countries, the morality system is backed by religions. For instance, many people in America and the UK are Christians so that the public values and accepted moral standards are supported by the tenets(教义)  of Christianity. To some degree, this can regulate the certain behaviors of common people where laws cannot reach. I think it is pretty lucky for a race to own a religion because at least majority of people have a clear pattern of moral standards in their subconsciousness.

However, in China, there exists a problem called demoralization(道德败坏). It is a common problem and I think all of us are aware of it. So what are the reasons? From my perspective, first is the poor executive power of the law; second is the darkness of the Party and the government, and last is the lack of faith or religion. We all know most people in China are free thinkers. Many people feel very proud of it, as if it means they are open-minded. However, for some of them, they are not freethinkers, they just think about nothing in terms of what is right and what is wrong. In a society without a main religion or faith, the moral standards are so weak that the law becomes the only thing some people are afraid of. I always think that a man must have something to hold in awe(敬畏) and veneration（尊敬）. For western people, it’s God and Devil; for people in ancient China, it’s all kinds of gods and ghosts and the hell. However, many Chinese are afraid of nothing except laws nowadays. Some people are even not afraid of the law and there are many unwritten rules beyond the law in China. In many situations, people can do bad things without the punishment from the law and the blame from their own moral aspect. They have thousands of reasons to offend themselves and nothing powerful in the perspective of faith could be used to blame them. In Christian’s eyes, anything wrong comes with a price, because God knows everything and everything will be considered when it’s time to decide whether you should go to the Heaven or the Hell.

So what are the solutions? I don’t know. Maybe socialists have some ideas. For me, I think maybe I could be a Christian one day. However, at least, I will try my best to hold the value system of moral standards in my mind and find my own faith.

     At last, I want to recommend a course to all of you. It is called Cultural Cornerstone(基石文化-生命培育课程). I have taken 4 lessons in this course and I found it is really helpful in the building of my characters and value systems. By the way, it is not an advertisement. It’s for your sake.

Blog 3: Love you more than I can say

What are the most frequent words that you can find out in American movies?

"I LOVE YOU", I suppose.

What are the rarest words that we use in China?

"I LOVE YOU" , as far as I consider.

China used to be a conservative country, which made "love" a sensitive word to express feelings. Take my family for example, we have never said these three words to each other before, but true love is always there.

What is love? The question is a little difficult for me to answer as I experienced so little, but having brought up by my parents for 18 years, I think I have the right to share my opinions about love in a family. It has something common with water: soft, clean, and honest.

Soft: You can hardly be moved deeply by some certain romantic behavior in your family, but every day there are warmth to welcome you home: a simple but delicious dinner; a short but comfortable conversation. You may not find it exciting, but you must admit that it is indispensable.

Clean: True love needs no additive. I enjoyed expensive toys and snacks when I was young and my parents earned quite enough money; I also learned to economize my pocket money afterwards for my father's factory was closed. This did not influence my attitude towards my parents. In my view, money cannot buy love or there will be no conflicts in some big wealthy family. Love is like water and money is like sugar; if you put them together, it may taste good, but you will never quench your thirsty.

Honest: There is one sentence my father once told me and I will never forget: If you slip into the river, I will jump into the water to save you, notwithstanding that I may die. My mother also said something impressive before I left for Singapore: We can do anything and we can give up anything if only you can have a happy life. They meant what they meant, then I know something deeper about love: If you can say these two sentences to someone honestly, he will live in your heart forever.

That is love: soft, clean and honest, just like water.

Have you ever said "I love you" to your parents? I have not, and may not in the future.

The fact is that nothing in the world worth my love as the love to them.

Like water stream through gullies, I will love them quietly and gently.

Love you more than I can say.

爱你在心口难开

Blog 3: Can You Afford a Love with A Distance of Thousands of Miles?

In the world of Chinese students, it is always a problem that what we should do when we are separated from our boyfriends or girlfriends because of study or other factors. Many couples keep their relationship successfully. However, more couples break up after a certain time of suffering. So what are the right things to do for students in this awkward situation?

From my perspective, the first thing to do is to question yourself: can the feeling between you and your lover be called love. Or it is just a kind of affection or just a kind of capital to show off. If your answer is no, then there is no need to maintain the relationship. What’s more, you should reflect why you childishly invest your deep emotion into something which is not called love. However, if your answer is yes, that is a completely different thing.

In my opinion, in this situation, you should spare no effort to maintain, to develop your relationship with her or him who is thousands of miles away from you. It could be hard or even suffering to get through the difficulties caused by distance, but love itself is never an easy thing to achieve. You must have the belief in your mind that as long as you try hard to keep in touch with your lover, to maintain the relationship with him or her, the electricity feeling between you two will never disappear. In some cases, one side of the couple quit their love in the so-called reasons of that there will be no end for their love with all the barriers. But what they say is nothing but excuses. They are just cowards who do not have the courage to face the necessary difficulties in love. What they lost is not just a piece of relationship but also can be the happiness for the whole life.

So, if you are far away from your lover, or if you will be like this in a future day, please consider my words. It is not only a kind of theoretic speech; it is the words from a person who was in regret for something he did.