What are the most frequent words that you can find out in American movies?
"I LOVE YOU", I suppose.
What are the rarest words that we use in China?
"I LOVE YOU" , as far as I consider.
China used to be a conservative country, which made "love" a sensitive word to express feelings. Take my family for example, we have never said these three words to each other before, but true love is always there.
What is love? The question is a little difficult for me to answer as I experienced so little, but having brought up by my parents for 18 years, I think I have the right to share my opinions about love in a family. It has something common with water: soft, clean, and honest.
Soft: You can hardly be moved deeply by some certain romantic behavior in your family, but every day there are warmth to welcome you home: a simple but delicious dinner; a short but comfortable conversation. You may not find it exciting, but you must admit that it is indispensable.
Clean: True love needs no additive. I enjoyed expensive toys and snacks when I was young and my parents earned quite enough money; I also learned to economize my pocket money afterwards for my father's factory was closed. This did not influence my attitude towards my parents. In my view, money cannot buy love or there will be no conflicts in some big wealthy family. Love is like water and money is like sugar; if you put them together, it may taste good, but you will never quench your thirsty.
Honest: There is one sentence my father once told me and I will never forget: If you slip into the river, I will jump into the water to save you, notwithstanding that I may die. My mother also said something impressive before I left for Singapore: We can do anything and we can give up anything if only you can have a happy life. They meant what they meant, then I know something deeper about love: If you can say these two sentences to someone honestly, he will live in your heart forever.
That is love: soft, clean and honest, just like water.
Have you ever said "I love you" to your parents? I have not, and may not in the future.
The fact is that nothing in the world worth my love as the love to them.
Like water stream through gullies, I will love them quietly and gently.
Love you more than I can say.
爱你在心口难开
Your blog is impressive and I really agree with you. Our parents' love is the deepest love for us in the world. We should live a happy life to make them happy and exchange our love with theirs. Love is not what you say but what you do and the real things in your heart.
ReplyDeleteThanks for your blog. I was deeply moved after reading it. Love, especially parental love, is the most invaluable feeling we have in this world. I think in my world, nothing can be more important than my parents. They gave my live; they instilled high moral values in my mind; they tolerant my faults; they say they can even sacrifice themselves for me. What can I do for them? I think I should give them joy; I should let them happy. I have no money to give them, but I can give my heart to them. HeYang, you say you never told your parents you loved them, but I think you should say that! When I say, “mom, I love you!” I really had a very strong sense of happiness; I could see the tears in my mother’s eyes and she smiled. I think you must know a Chinese proverb “树欲静而风不止，子欲养而亲不待”; thus, I know you love your parents, but I think they really want to hear that “papa, mom, I love you”!
ReplyDeleteI like your blog and I also share the similar feelings with you.Luan min and jiang ze are also right.Different persons have different ways to deal with this,but one thing is incontrovertible that the parental love is the purest and no one can have match for them.Of course actions are necessary,but sometimes it is also necessary for you to express yourself to them.Come so far,I also failed to do that,because I do not know how to say it,but I have always been trying to do that,because I do not want to leave big regrets in the future.We should do our best to let them live a happy life!No matter what it takes.
ReplyDeleteAfter reading your blog,I do feel moved and warm.I have heard many feelings about love such as deep, forever, dedicated.What you mentioned in your blog really makes me think a lot.The true love doesn't need many promises and many words.The true love isn't strong all the time.The soft, clean, honest love is just like water,though plain,can seep into your heart slowly and make you feel warm,peaceful and comfortable just like the love that our parents give us.Thank you for give me so much sensation, warmth and reflection.Love you more than I can say.Now, I can feel the love of my parents.I hope one day I can plump up courage to say'I love you so much'to my parents and care them from heart.I like your blog so much(*^__^*)
ReplyDeleteSo moved! Love is just like water. Without any speaking word, showing your love deeply. I like your blog so much. I like the way you show your love. You are so lucky to have such parents, they are also so lucky to have such a son. I think your parents must be glad if they watch this blog. While I think speak out is a good way to express emotions. So you can try to say"I love you" to your parents, it will be another feeling.
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