In the world of Chinese students, it is always a problem that what we should do when we are separated from our boyfriends or girlfriends because of study or other factors. Many couples keep their relationship successfully. However, more couples break up after a certain time of suffering. So what are the right things to do for students in this awkward situation?
From my perspective, the first thing to do is to question yourself: can the feeling between you and your lover be called love. Or it is just a kind of affection or just a kind of capital to show off. If your answer is no, then there is no need to maintain the relationship. What’s more, you should reflect why you childishly invest your deep emotion into something which is not called love. However, if your answer is yes, that is a completely different thing.
In my opinion, in this situation, you should spare no effort to maintain, to develop your relationship with her or him who is thousands of miles away from you. It could be hard or even suffering to get through the difficulties caused by distance, but love itself is never an easy thing to achieve. You must have the belief in your mind that as long as you try hard to keep in touch with your lover, to maintain the relationship with him or her, the electricity feeling between you two will never disappear. In some cases, one side of the couple quit their love in the so-called reasons of that there will be no end for their love with all the barriers. But what they say is nothing but excuses. They are just cowards who do not have the courage to face the necessary difficulties in love. What they lost is not just a piece of relationship but also can be the happiness for the whole life.
So, if you are far away from your lover, or if you will be like this in a future day, please consider my words. It is not only a kind of theoretic speech; it is the words from a person who was in regret for something he did.
I always find your article excellent to read because of its great logicality. This blog is really something thought-provoking. However, I think true love is to make our beloved one happy. If we are far away form them, how can we give the happiness he or she wants? Maybe it's only an excuse, but it's probably the best way for the love partners to go further toward their bright future.
ReplyDeleteMy dear roommate, although you are still single, I think you have an insightful opinion about love. I agree with you. The long distance love tends to make no sense; because of the barriers of geography, a couple will find it is hard to exchange their feelings, as the tools of communication are only restricted to online and phones, which could not give couples access to do some more intimate actions, like touch. Just imaging, when a girl feels sad, the boyfriend could not sit beside her and let her head lean on his shoulders; the only thing the boy can do is talking. Sometimes, I do not think words can really appease a girl’s mind. So, I think I will find a girlfriend in Singapore. What about you?
ReplyDeleteAs you have a real experience of youself, you can feel the feelings of a love with a long distance which I have not experienced. I agree with your opinion that if two person have true love, they should try their best to maintain the love, despite all kinds of difficultiess. True love is something more related to soul but not to intimate actions. Although we cannot meet face to face, we can communicate with our hearts. So, I think true friends who love each other should have a srong belief that they can be together eventually. May all of them have a sweet result.
ReplyDeletelong distance relationship is difficult to maintain for most of people, regardless the fact that sometimes miracles do happen. usually some couples are together just because they enjoy each other's company when go out for a walk, go to the cinema to see a movie, etc. hence, if they are separated in geography, they may find it not as interesting as before though they are together on the Internet. further, they are not able to solve the problems caused during communication with out face-to-face talk. just judging from words typed on the screen can not come to a conclusion whether the other is truly happy or not. it may become worse when one is getting sad while the other one thinks she is still happy with him.
ReplyDeleteI really like the sentence: the first thing is to ask yourself if the feeling can be called love. Perhaps you two 'love' just for killing spare time or comforting your lonly heart, even for sex. If so, there is no need to maintain the realationship because you can find another one easily. But, if you think it is a true love and the girl or boy is the one who will live with for the whole life. I think it is worth to maintain the realationship and some does.
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