There is an element of truth that we need to
believe that a lot of nice people are around us. However, we also have to admit
there is a time when we meet those mean people.When it
happens, we need to know what is the right way to do.
There are people who come
with their words like knives and they use them against us. There are people who
come with their voice like nails on a chalk board calling us out. There are people
who come with their switching sides and their wildfire lies and their
humiliation. They like to point out our flaws again and again as if we have not
seen them yet. I try to block them out because I know I can never impress them.
Sometimes I may even come up with the idea that they will be scolded and will
feel cold, but the cycle should come to an end. I do not want to be turned into
a mean person like them. All I need to
do is to be strong enough so that they cannot hit me anymore. I just need to
prove that they are wrong and that they know nothing about me.
This is how I should fight
back.
I know there are some mean people around us and I can completely understand your feelings, since I am always satirized by them…. However, I always choose to be silent when such a person talks something bad about me. Why? Dose this action mean cowardice? I do not think so. I do not want to refute because I think using this way will do nothing but merely lower my own status. I hate mean persons as well. Therefore, in the daily life, I purposely avoid talking with them. Maybe, you cannot tolerate them, I still advise you to adopt a gentle way to fight with them!
ReplyDelete"Some day, i'll be...why you're gonna be so mean..." As soon as I saw your title, I came up with these lyrics. Accordingly, I guess the writer was you. Well, I got it. As a matter of fact, when you come across somebody mean, you can sing this song to her/him, asking him/her why you're gonna be so mean. I just want to say a sentence to you,"One mark that one grow up is saying "no" to others."
ReplyDeleteThanks for your blog, Lingzi. I have always consider you a girl with independent thoughts and I find that I am quite impressed by this blog. I also find the mean people rather irritating. Actually, when I meet these people who are always criticizing everything I say, I prefer to ignore them first. If they stop criticizing, it would not bother me anymore. However, if they keep on saying something that I could bear, I would rather fight back—I will scold them and argue with them as I think these people do not deserve my respect and friendship.
ReplyDeleteSo far, you have really done well in handling such things, and in fact, the word "mean" can be quite annoying, but it be another form of "straightforward". Usually, someone who will not point out things on others directly may be regarded as worldly; but if you are too direct, it will make others feel uncomfortable. It seems hard to control the degree.
ReplyDeleteI do look forward to observing your changes and I believe you will get everything to go smoothly~~
I think this kind of people should not be called "mean". Maybe they just want to show their oppinions in their own way and humour. Sometimes because of different way of thinking and understanding, we may have some wrong impression about them. Actually, the one who will point out our shortcomings benefits us. Perhaps they are too straightforward but through them we know our shortcomings and get improvement.
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